Right now I’m glad my friends don’t know what I’ve been through the past 3+ years.
Even the one friend who knows most all of my story, doesn’t know everything. She would if she read my blog here, but I’ve told her not too (even though she knows where it’s at), and to date I don’t think she has.
Why is this a good thing? Because I think this journey, this very long process that I’m in….it’s something that I need to do as much as possible by myself. And before you jump in and say, “DebtKid! What are you talking about!? What about your readers, what about your family, your blog friends that know what’s up?” Yes, yes. That’s exactly why I’ve been able to get by without sharing my issues with more of my friends.
If I had shared more
Let’s say I had told a few more of my friends say a year ago. You know what would have happened. They would have worried about me. They would have offered to help me.
And they would have been a crutch. A distraction even.
I needed to hit rock bottom. I needed to be completely broken down. I needed to say, “It’s time to man up and do this on my own as much as I possibly can without being stupid”
Asking for help
I got into trouble in the past because I didn’t know when to reach out and ask for help. I’ve learned how to do that now.
But this my journey. It’s not my mom’s, it’s not my dad’s, it’s not my friends. I will let them help me when appropriate, but ultimately this debt, this burden is mine and mine alone. I created it, I hid it, I lied about it, and it’s my job to fix it.
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Spot on… and I’m right there with you. I broke it, and I have to fix it. I created the problem on my own, and the only way to regain my self respect is to fix it on my own….
Keep it up!!!
What’s up with all the ads and garish colors? What a distraction. It is easy to lose your storyline.Didn’t you clutter up your blog at least once before, then blessedly stopped. Please consider stopping again.
Whatever happened to your income taxes relative to your short sale? Was the full amount owed “forgiven” or did you get a dreaded 1099. You might have mentioned it but I can’t remember reading about the tax ramifications.
@ the wolf – I’ve just been trying some new things. I’m reworking the design a bit today, getting rid of the “garish colors”.
I never did receive a “dreaded 1099″ and doubt that I will. Even if I did I wouldn’t have been on the hook for the taxes as I was definition the definition of “insolvent” (and still am)
I know what you mean DK. I still haven’t really told anyone in my family that I’ve started a blog/business.
It’s simply because I want to make it on my own, much as you do. I feel similarly; if they knew they would help, and if they helped I would be at a disadvantage: I would have more support, and maybe even more money, but I’d then be less creative, less “how can I solve this problem without throwing money at it”, less motivated, and less proud of everything “I” have accomplished.
Your mistakes are your own, but at least so are your successes. Though goodness knows it can be lonely sometimes.