Comments on: Leaning on others, and being a follower http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower Get Out of Debt @ DebtKid.com Sun, 21 Mar 2010 04:33:43 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Shel http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower/comment-page-1#comment-8024 Shel Sun, 16 Mar 2008 22:06:23 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower#comment-8024 As someone who went through an anxiety-ridden crisis and continues to suffer from anxiety even though things are fine/managable, I totally feel where you're coming from. Anxiety is such a tricky thing. The worst of it is, the more you are anxious, the more your brain and body change and the more likely you are to become anxious for seemingly no reason. I hate that feeling of KNOWING that things are fine, that everything is ok and feeling anxious for no reason. So frustrating. And it really pisses me off. =) If you have any time for yourself, I would suggest doing things to get a handle on your anxiety now. Go out with friends, journal, exercise, see a therapist, do what you can to get away from your situation for awhile. If the majority of your anxiety happens in your office where you're constantly reminded about your financial situation, get out. The idea of joining a group is a great one. Have you tried meetup.com or craigslist? I bet you'll have tons of options living in a larger city. Good luck! As someone who went through an anxiety-ridden crisis and continues to suffer from anxiety even though things are fine/managable, I totally feel where you’re coming from.

Anxiety is such a tricky thing. The worst of it is, the more you are anxious, the more your brain and body change and the more likely you are to become anxious for seemingly no reason. I hate that feeling of KNOWING that things are fine, that everything is ok and feeling anxious for no reason. So frustrating. And it really pisses me off. =)

If you have any time for yourself, I would suggest doing things to get a handle on your anxiety now. Go out with friends, journal, exercise, see a therapist, do what you can to get away from your situation for awhile. If the majority of your anxiety happens in your office where you’re constantly reminded about your financial situation, get out.

The idea of joining a group is a great one. Have you tried meetup.com or craigslist? I bet you’ll have tons of options living in a larger city. Good luck!

]]> By: Big Bad Wolf http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower/comment-page-1#comment-8020 Big Bad Wolf Sun, 16 Mar 2008 18:22:47 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower#comment-8020 I'll wager(!) that you will feel better once you get the IRS satisfied, your debt payment plan in regard to your bankruptcy worked out, your business stable and your mother repaid. In the past, you tended to equate success in terms of how much money your company does each week/month. Is this a gross or net number? Do you have any suppliers except for credit cards? Are they current? A lot of things can feed into anxiety. Unpaid suppliers are not noted for their warm fuzzy feelings, beginning with your Uncle Sam's tax debt. No business is successful until the paperwork is done (think IRS.) It just doesn't happen. Moving on, I thought you were seeing a therapist. Lay your feelings out for him/her. Otherwise, why bother? 03/16/08 I’ll wager(!) that you will feel better once you get the IRS satisfied, your debt payment plan in regard to your bankruptcy worked out, your business stable and your mother repaid. In the past, you tended to equate success in terms of how much money your company does each week/month. Is this a gross or net number? Do you have any suppliers except for credit cards? Are they current? A lot of things can feed into anxiety. Unpaid suppliers are not noted for their warm fuzzy feelings, beginning with your Uncle Sam’s tax debt. No business is successful until the paperwork is done (think IRS.) It just doesn’t happen.
Moving on, I thought you were seeing a therapist. Lay your feelings out for him/her. Otherwise, why bother?
03/16/08

]]> By: debt kid http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower/comment-page-1#comment-8008 debt kid Sat, 15 Mar 2008 20:35:54 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower#comment-8008 @ Blogga - Exactly. I think just acknowledging my present situation and being OK with not being my normal self is healthy. I do feel the anxiety is mostly financially related...I've never had issues or felt like this before, even when under large amounts of different stressors. @ Blogga – Exactly. I think just acknowledging my present situation and being OK with not being my normal self is healthy.

I do feel the anxiety is mostly financially related…I’ve never had issues or felt like this before, even when under large amounts of different stressors.

]]> By: MoneyBlogga http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower/comment-page-1#comment-8006 MoneyBlogga Sat, 15 Mar 2008 20:07:38 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/leaning-on-others-and-being-a-follower#comment-8006 It's actually very healthy to be able to say, "No, I can't do this or that right now.I need to work on my own foundation in order to build something stronger for myself in the future. But, I will be back." There's nothing wrong with that at all. Not to acknowledge the fact that you do have issues that need to be sorted out in your mind WOULD be wrong, IMHO. Because then, you cannot see your path and you end up wandering around "lost" for months and months, years even. Whether it's solely a monetary issue that causes you anxiety or not, only you can say. One generally has to delve into the past to find the root cause of any significant problem that impacts the enjoyment of life in the present. Only then can a person truly come to terms with themselves to make the choice to not let those past events influence the future any more than they already have. My 2 cents plus tax ;) It’s actually very healthy to be able to say, “No, I can’t do this or that right now.I need to work on my own foundation in order to build something stronger for myself in the future. But, I will be back.” There’s nothing wrong with that at all.

Not to acknowledge the fact that you do have issues that need to be sorted out in your mind WOULD be wrong, IMHO. Because then, you cannot see your path and you end up wandering around “lost” for months and months, years even.

Whether it’s solely a monetary issue that causes you anxiety or not, only you can say. One generally has to delve into the past to find the root cause of any significant problem that impacts the enjoyment of life in the present. Only then can a person truly come to terms with themselves to make the choice to not let those past events influence the future any more than they already have.

My 2 cents plus tax ;)

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