Are you stuck in a situation? Really, truly stuck?
When you are “stuck” in a situation, you have to deal with it. You have to face it. Confront it. And hopefully, overcome it.
You don’t have a choice when you are stuck.
I’m stuck right now. I have been for the past few years. I’m stuck in a big debt hole. And you know what?
I’m glad I’m stuck.
Why? Because I don’t have choices. And sometimes NOT having choices is the most freeing option in the world.
I don’t have the option to fail. I don’t have the option to not succeed. To me, those are not options and so I do everything I can do avoid them.
Quit Whining and Get Stuck
My friends are constantly whining, bickering, and complaining about everything in their lives. They don’t like their jobs. They don’t like the weather, they don’t like this, they don’t like that.
And to them I say, “get stuck”. Get “stuck” so that every fiber in your being, and every action you take, brings you one step closer to getting unstuck.
I swear so many people choose, literally choose complacency, solely because they have that option. They don’t have a 300K debt over their head. They scrape by, so why ever try to really get ahead? They have to option to be complacent and just accept what comes their way.
What if complacency were not an option for you?
Frack that. It’s time to get stuck
- Get “stuck” pretending you have an extra $200 bill due each month (and put that into savings)
- Get “stuck” working on a business on the side (so you can eventually leave that job you hate)
- Get “stuck” acting like you only have a year left to live (so you start living today)
- Get “stuck” pretending you live on a $25,000/year salary when you make 40K a year
- Get “stuck”……..(fill in what you need to do here to get what you really desire….now do it)
How are you “stuck” and what are you doing to get unstuck?
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Hey DebtKid, excellent post.
I remember when I was broke and unemployed. It was hard, but I did what I had to do, and I got through it. I'm genuinely glad of the experience – one of many benefits I got from it was the forced creation of frugal habits that I still keep, and enjoy keeping. I learned that you don't need to buy or own lots of 'stuff' to be happy. If I ever I had to go through something like that again I don't think it would frighten me.
I suppose I'm lucky to now have enough money now to have a few options (I've starting a options trading business and I'm going back to university), although I've found I'm a lot less motivated than when I was 'stuck' in near poverty and unemployment. You're probably right, maybe I need to get stuck again
Excellent excellent post. At the heart of it, you're talking about self discipine.
DK , you are absolutely dead on. Can people get a fire lit under them without experiencing desperation? Could someone have talked sense into me when I was going to Starbucks (at least) twice a day, fully complacent, eating dinner at home rarely, sleepwalking my way into debt? What I love about reading your posts lately, is that you have taken so many gifts from your mistakes. I feel the same way about what we went through with our business failure. I am so grateful for the distinctions we gained by failing so miserably. I think that had we not been so screwed, we may have never been able to change our life so dramatically. We had to take drastic measures only because we were stuck and there seemed to be no way out. I will read this post whenever life seems good, just to make sure I don't become complacent.