Comments on: Confidence http://www.debtkid.com/confidence Debt Kid - I'm Getting Out of Debt Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:42:10 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Colleen in MA http://www.debtkid.com/confidence/comment-page-1#comment-14126 Colleen in MA Wed, 19 Nov 2008 01:54:04 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/confidence#comment-14126 The older you get the easier this will be as long as you put yourself out there to practice these social skills. Because for some of us it does take practice! I was into my 30s before I started dating (sad but true but I was painfully shy) and you know what helped me? Those 3-minute dating events. You get to practice talking with lots of people for short amounts of time. Anybody can fill up 3 minutes - give it a try! Also, kudos to you for getting out there to begin with. It isn't easy! The older you get the easier this will be as long as you put yourself out there to practice these social skills. Because for some of us it does take practice! I was into my 30s before I started dating (sad but true but I was painfully shy) and you know what helped me? Those 3-minute dating events. You get to practice talking with lots of people for short amounts of time. Anybody can fill up 3 minutes – give it a try! Also, kudos to you for getting out there to begin with. It isn't easy!

]]> By: Scott http://www.debtkid.com/confidence/comment-page-1#comment-14107 Scott Tue, 18 Nov 2008 17:49:18 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/confidence#comment-14107 How about starting the conversation with "How do you spend your free time?" I've reverted to asking this rather than the coloquial work-related questions. I find that it stimulates good conversation with both women and men, and helps you learn a lot more about the other person than their employment status ever does. Remember, women are more impressed with a guy who takes an interest in them and their lives as opposed to the dude who can't stop talking about himself. Figure out what her passions are and what intrigues her. Not only will you get a better idea about who she really is, it's really difficult for her to turn down your suggestion to go for a hike after she's spent the last 30 minutes telling you about how much she loves hiking! How about starting the conversation with “How do you spend your free time?” I’ve reverted to asking this rather than the coloquial work-related questions. I find that it stimulates good conversation with both women and men, and helps you learn a lot more about the other person than their employment status ever does. Remember, women are more impressed with a guy who takes an interest in them and their lives as opposed to the dude who can’t stop talking about himself. Figure out what her passions are and what intrigues her. Not only will you get a better idea about who she really is, it’s really difficult for her to turn down your suggestion to go for a hike after she’s spent the last 30 minutes telling you about how much she loves hiking!

]]> By: debt kid http://www.debtkid.com/confidence/comment-page-1#comment-14097 debt kid Mon, 17 Nov 2008 23:56:31 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/confidence#comment-14097 @ Spiritwealth - Ha! That is a very good point. Foreclosure? Done that. Bankruptcy. Check. Maxed credit cards? Yep, had that as well... @ Spiritwealth – Ha! That is a very good point.

Foreclosure? Done that. Bankruptcy. Check. Maxed credit cards? Yep, had that as well…

]]> By: Spiritwealth http://www.debtkid.com/confidence/comment-page-1#comment-14093 Spiritwealth Mon, 17 Nov 2008 20:09:45 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/confidence#comment-14093 Hey, there is a bright side to this whole economic dire straits we're in! Now, you don't have to be ashamed to talk about your money troubles! Everyone's got them! Hey, there is a bright side to this whole economic dire straits we’re in! Now, you don’t have to be ashamed to talk about your money troubles! Everyone’s got them!

]]> By: Craig http://www.debtkid.com/confidence/comment-page-1#comment-14092 Craig Mon, 17 Nov 2008 17:17:00 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/confidence#comment-14092 I agree, I don't enjoy talking about work in social situations because mainly you deal with it so much, the last thing you want to do is get in a boring discussion about work. Speaking to cute girls is always going to be something guys deal with. I'm like you and think I have been getting better at breaking the ice and engaging in conversation. My best advice and what works for me is to be entertaining. Girls like entertaining. Keep asking fun, open ended questions that will get them talking and to keep the conversation going. Even if nothing leads to anywhere, they will give you the time of day because if nothing else, you asked them a question and they will answer it. Break it off from there. Craig www.budgetpulse.com I agree, I don’t enjoy talking about work in social situations because mainly you deal with it so much, the last thing you want to do is get in a boring discussion about work. Speaking to cute girls is always going to be something guys deal with. I’m like you and think I have been getting better at breaking the ice and engaging in conversation. My best advice and what works for me is to be entertaining. Girls like entertaining. Keep asking fun, open ended questions that will get them talking and to keep the conversation going. Even if nothing leads to anywhere, they will give you the time of day because if nothing else, you asked them a question and they will answer it. Break it off from there.

Craig
http://www.budgetpulse.com

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