Comments on: Changing My Thinking http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking Debt Kid - I'm Getting Out of Debt Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:11:13 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Chief Family Officer http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking/comment-page-1#comment-6950 Chief Family Officer Wed, 06 Feb 2008 20:40:26 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking#comment-6950 Being (more than) a few years older than you, I'd say that in my experience, this is the sort of thing that really only changes with experience (and/or therapy, I suppose). In your situation, I would say to myself, "I might fail - in fact, I expect to fail, but what is the best thing that I can or should do?" And then I would do it. Because either you take the risk and find out whether you succeed or fail, or you don't take the risk and you fail. The key is to do your very best, so that you know your failure was a true failure and not something you set yourself up for. And in that case, the "true failure" isn't really a failure at all but a lesson to build in the future. Good luck - as always, I'm rooting for you! Being (more than) a few years older than you, I’d say that in my experience, this is the sort of thing that really only changes with experience (and/or therapy, I suppose). In your situation, I would say to myself, “I might fail – in fact, I expect to fail, but what is the best thing that I can or should do?” And then I would do it. Because either you take the risk and find out whether you succeed or fail, or you don’t take the risk and you fail. The key is to do your very best, so that you know your failure was a true failure and not something you set yourself up for. And in that case, the “true failure” isn’t really a failure at all but a lesson to build in the future. Good luck – as always, I’m rooting for you!

]]> By: Matt http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking/comment-page-1#comment-6927 Matt Wed, 06 Feb 2008 14:24:16 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking#comment-6927 I've felt the same way many times over and the nagging feeling at the back of your brain that says you could have done better or more never helps. For me I think is a subtle fear of success... stepping up and being the captain of the second string team isn't a big deal but putting that extra effort to get onto the first one is a mental block sometimes. We can't wait for the dare to be great situation... just have to try being great all the time and never stop trying. I’ve felt the same way many times over and the nagging feeling at the back of your brain that says you could have done better or more never helps. For me I think is a subtle fear of success… stepping up and being the captain of the second string team isn’t a big deal but putting that extra effort to get onto the first one is a mental block sometimes.

We can’t wait for the dare to be great situation… just have to try being great all the time and never stop trying.

]]> By: Laura http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking/comment-page-1#comment-6910 Laura Wed, 06 Feb 2008 04:03:48 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking#comment-6910 I have often felt the same way... until I realized I do excel in something: Averageness :-D So I stick with that... I excel in averageness. Personally I think that's much better than being really good at one thing and just kinda blah at everything else. (Who cares if you can dunk if you run to 3rd base when you hit a baseball!) I have often felt the same way… until I realized I do excel in something: Averageness :-D So I stick with that… I excel in averageness. Personally I think that’s much better than being really good at one thing and just kinda blah at everything else. (Who cares if you can dunk if you run to 3rd base when you hit a baseball!)

]]> By: moom http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking/comment-page-1#comment-6867 moom Tue, 05 Feb 2008 09:37:46 +0000 http://www.debtkid.com/changing-my-thinking#comment-6867 Of course, very few people are the best. One in each field. But plenty of people are good enough and can make a contribution. Having to be the best is self-defeating. Of course, very few people are the best. One in each field. But plenty of people are good enough and can make a contribution. Having to be the best is self-defeating.

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